Bismillah ir-rahman ir-rahim
Assalam alaykum warahamatullah wabarakatu
An Illustration, Nouman Ali Khan
Let me try to address this, I have given a lot of talks about this issue. The cycle of Sin. The cycle of even good people. You know they're praying, they're reciting the Qur'an, they're even doing Umrah, Ibadat, but at the same time they can't get away from certain evil practices in their alone time. There are two types of these problem. One
of those parts is Spiritual, and the other part is Psychological, and we have
to address both of those parts. Let me start with the psychological, only
because most of the time when we have these discussions, we don’t address the
psychological side, we only address the spiritual side. So I’ll try to address
the psychological side of this a little bit. [0.43]
You have to understand that, they are in
psychology, there are triggers. In other words there are certain situations that
make your mind, they release certain chemicals in your brain and then make you
want to do some things in certain settings. They are TRIGGERS. For example a young man, I’ll give you an example of
a young man is watching an action movie and he sees a beautiful woman. And as
soon as he sees that scene, his mind gets triggered, and he pauses the movie
and he watches something far worse. And he gets into the habit of doing that. It
wasn’t the movie itself, it was that one thing that triggered it. [01.17]
Or for some people when they go back into
their apartment or their room, when they are alone by themselves, bad things
happen. When they are by themselves. But when they are at the Masjid obviously
it doesn’t happen when they are with their friends it doesn’t happen. When they
are on their own it happens. [01.20]
So the first bit of advice, for everyone
her and myself is you have to identify when does the sin happen? When I’m by
myself. Where am I when it happens? What times does it happen? And if you can
identify the problem times and the problem places and the problem situations,
you have to try and change those situations. [01.48]
If you are a young man and you have a
problem with the kinds of things that are available on the internet and you’re
looking at those kinds of things for example, put your laptop, put your mobile
device, put it in the kitchen… so that your mother is walking by, your dad is
walking by and there is the mobile device. Don’t put it in your room. And parents
put that stuff in a visible place in the house. These things are destroying our
kids, seriously!! [02.08]
And the other thing, the spiritual side
of this problem. It is normal for human being to make taubah to Allah, and then
go back and do the sin again because we are Khattaun.
Rasul of Allah (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) described us
not Khattiun, but Khattaun.
“Kullu bani Adam Khattaun.” Khattaun
is a Sighatul Mubalaghah it’s called a Hyperbolized State.
What that means in simple English is “The one who repeats mistakes over and over and over again”
like a khabaz makes bread over and over again. You know a khatta makes
mistakes over and over again. So that will happen, it’s inevitable that some
sins will occur over and over again. However, however, however if in the back
of your mind, th moment you make taubah, you are already thinking about 3 weeks
from now I’m gonna be doing this again anyway. If you’re thinking that in the
back of your head then “Laysati taubah lilladhina
ya’maluna sayiat.” Taubah is not
for people who continually do evil deeds. You’ve already accepted it. Allah says,
“Walamyusiru ‘ala mafa’alu.” They don’t insist
on what they did. In other words, you have to make a serious verbalized conscious
commitment. “This has to stop!” not that at one time you cry and you turn to
Allah, "I am so sorry, I can’t believe I did this…” and you don’t do it you
know. [03.20]
You have to figure out a way to get away
from this entirely serious commitment to yourself. And if you can’t do it on
your own, seek help of friends, seek help of people you trust. I know it’s embarrassing
sometimes but we all need counselling and help sometimes. And when you realize
that it’s been going on for years and you haven’t been able to get out of it,
it is time to seek someone else’s help. Which is why the Ummah today,
psychological and spiritual counselling is so important. So many young people
are in need of counselling and families are in need of counselling. That is one
of the greatest priority of this Ummah, because that will be a vehicle by which
people will be delivered to people. [03.59]
You can watch the video from the link above. In Sha Allah may it be beneficial. Please do pass it on.
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